Public Humiliation

     Is there a reason people think it is socially acceptable to humiliate others in public?  In all fairness, they probably do not even recognize they are belittling someone; it's not high school after all.  If someone makes a comment in Sunday school do you feel the need to criticize it in your following comment?  If someone does something you do not like, do you go up to them in front of others and tell them how little you think of what they did in a condescending way?  

     I do not care what other people think about me or if they are judging me.  What hurts is when they must tell me their negative opinions of me, in public, in a rude way.  I am all for constructive comments that will help me better or gentle correction in private, but really, in public?  It is not what others will think, it creates an even more awkward situation for me that I already created for myself.  I have been termed a social buzzard--preying on people--instead of a social butterfly.  I am OK with that because I have other talents and I am working on gaining this skill set.  It is just embarrassing and I already have enough to be embarrassed about.

     Here is my solution:  If you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all.  If you feel it is your moral obligation to correct someone, do it in private and politely.  Condescension is very painful for me because I already berate myself and if you show me how much you are above me in your mind then you just make my situation worse.  

      Do you feel you are better than other people?  How sad for you because you will distance yourself from a possible great relationship.  Everybody has worth and devaluing that worth because you judge them harshly is so mean.  We are not mean girls.  It is high school anymore.  We have the gospel; we can at least take that testimony and use it to help us be kind.

     Yes, I let my feelings be hurt the last couple of weeks and it has been building for quite some time.  Now that I have vented I feel better.  Thank you for letting me use you as a sounding board.  Now for the positive:  Pics of B's birthday presents.  A glow stick hat.  Too funny.

      He also received Toothless and Hiccup.  Toothless flaps his wings, screeches, and breaths fire.  It is one cool toy.  A Payson BIL sent a letter with family for his baptism.  It was the type of letter that can make your day if you let it.  

     Did it make your day?  It gave us a great chuckle.  Have a judgment free happy day.